My Divorce Made Me a Better Woman: What I Learned From My Failed Marriage {Part 2}
It’s been a while since I have truly written a super personal blog post. This definitely tugged at my heart strings tonight-especially after I received a Facebook message asking me how I found love again. How I found love.... again.
Something that I have learned in my 34 years of life is that we are all after love. Love is the end goal for most of us, right? That may come in the form of a spouse… our children… our jobs… pets… who knows. But consider this a follow up to my original post of What I Learned From My Failed Marriage.
Lets start off with the fact that I am remarried and very happy. When I wrote my original blog post, I was very much regretting my decision to leave. After all, the guy who I dated shortly thereafter turned out to be a shitty guy and I truly just wanted my marriage back. But it was too late. I had to sit in the bed that I had made. Fair enough.
So how did I find love again? After regretting leaving my ex husband? I am not sure how to answer that. But what I do know is that you, I, and everyone else-we move on. We find the next best thing that is good for us. And what I have learned now? I learned that everything happens for a reason. I LOVE my husband. I would have never known him if it had not been for my divorce. But this is something that you have to realize. You WILL meet someone new. My ex husband remarried two years ago fresh off our divorce and I remarried just this past summer. And guess what? I am the happiest I have ever been… ever… in a marriage.. truly. And I hope he is, too.
When I wrote my blog post, I gave a few tips to help others save their marriage-things I learned from my own failures and they still hold true. I am applying them to my current marriage:
- never stop dating each other
- have lots of sex, put your spouse first
- realizing the grass is not greener on the other side
- just fucking say goodnight each night even if you do not wanna
- simply keep TRYING.
I learned from my mistakes and have applied this to my every day married life. It helps to learn and grow even with sadness or regret. My last divorce made me a better wife, partner, and woman.
This time around it feels a lot easier. I am not sure if its because I am older and wiser, but it just is. Do I still hold regrets? Some days I wonder this… but my heart tells me NO. I made the choice that was true to my in the exact moment and I lived by that… only to find true happiness once more. I am THANKFUL my marriage did not workout.
We do not always understand God’s timing but He knows what is best for us. I am grateful my ex and I did not work out. Why? Because I found someone better for my soul and for my life. If you are stuck in this situation, you have to realize that things truly do work out for the better even if you cannot see it. You will find love again and a better love for you at that.
I do not wish any ill will on my ex, though co-parenting proves a challenge. I will always love my ex-husband. He is the father of my kids after all and I want them to love him. But I am so thankful for the life that I have now and for my husband Scotty whom I feel God truly had in mind. So if you are stuck in this situation and are wondering if you will ever find love again-you will. Be positive! Just trust divine intervention’s timing.
Your trainer and friend,
